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Last night was the worst night of my whole life. My 2 year old woke up screaming as if he was being attacked at 1am. I ran in there and he was standing up red face real tears and a terrified face. I grabbed him and he rapped his arms and legs around me. I took him in my room and he kept saying scary, what's that? And pointing at nothing. Jumping and making worried noices. Tryed to put him down and cuddle him and he layd down for like 1 min and then shot up and started to scream again. I put the light on to show nothing is here. I put the telly on for a bit. Then he calmed down and he wouldn't sleep in bed with me so I put him back in his bed. Seamed ok when I put him down. As soon as i walked out. The same thing happened. Got him up again and he was doing the same thing jumping pointing and moving away from 'nothing.' He was scaring me. Finally got to sleep at 4, What couldn't be the course of this. He has always been such a good sleeper until last night. It was horrible to see.
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It is important as an adult not to reflect your son's behaviour from a view from an adult.
Straight away the whole situation screams, "Ghosts or paranormal" style activity but this is something we learn about as we get older, a child wouldn't understand this and would actually (if they do exist) find them interesting rather than scary.
As your child is 2 years old, they are at a point of their life where they absorb the world around them. They will watch an advert and then talk about it 3 days later, "What was the advert with the car about?" [or words of more simple wording] or, they will comment on something you said earlier. You hear lots of stories about mum's just letting a swear word slip and the child repeating it at pre-school.
Therefore, based on this an experience I would say it sounds as if you're child has had a bad nightmare which he has now gotten confused with real life. Have you ever had a dream you thought was so real you woke up thinking it was true? That's an adult trying to make sense of a dream, imagine what it feels like for a child. Furthermore, If you were in a room with a group of people - the lights suddenly went off and someone screamed, how would you feel? You would probably feel scared senseless and possibly scream back. This is called living off one-another's-fear and this is something young children pick up on! If your body language was worried and scared, the likelihood is the child will reflect this!
The fact that he was pointing at something shows that his fear is to one particular area, what ever it may be. It could even be an attention thing! I had this with my daughter when she was younger! She would complain of tummy ache whenever I had to leave for work, but her Grandmother said she heard nothing more of it once I was actually gone- she was protesting me leaving and this was around when she was 2 as well. This could be solved by using a "baby cam" which you can find in Argos. Instead of having the "TV screen" in your room, showing the baby - switch it to show your son you're safe, okay and happy.
Furthermore, if this is the stereotypical "monsters under the bed" type of behaviour often seen in children a good thing to do is a nightlight and insure that the bedroom door isn't shut totally! Getting some air freshener and calling it "monster spray!" a quick squirt here and there and it dissolves the monsters in the room, they won't hurt anyone anymore - this type of level explanation insures that your child understands it!! Think of it in their eyes, if the tooth fairy and Santa exist then sure as hell a monster can a simple, "he doesn't exist" may put the child in a calm state for the first ten minuets and then imagination takes hold and he (the monster) is suddenly as real as you or his father!
Just at night time be sure to explain that his room is safe, maybe try and involve play (jigsaws, car mat etc) in there for an hour rather than the lounge so it isn't such a big shock and change when he has to go to bed later on- although, don't do this too often or for too long as the room should be associated with rest and sleep not play time and loud fun!
I hope this advice has helped you. Another idea is playing soothing music into his room at night.
It is important as an adult not to reflect your son's behaviour from a view from an adult.
Straight away the whole situation screams, "Ghosts or paranormal" style activity but this is something we learn about as we get older, a child wouldn't understand this and would actually (if they do exist) find them interesting rather than scary.
As your child is 2 years old, they are at a point of their life where they absorb the world around them. They will watch an advert and then talk about it 3 days later, "What was the advert with the car about?" [or words of more simple wording] or, they will comment on something you said earlier. You hear lots of stories about mum's just letting a swear word slip and the child repeating it at pre-school.
Therefore, based on this an experience I would say it sounds as if you're child has had a bad nightmare which he has now gotten confused with real life. Have you ever had a dream you thought was so real you woke up thinking it was true? That's an adult trying to make sense of a dream, imagine what it feels like for a child. Furthermore, If you were in a room with a group of people - the lights suddenly went off and someone screamed, how would you feel? You would probably feel scared senseless and possibly scream back. This is called living off one-another's-fear and this is something young children pick up on! If your body language was worried and scared, the likelihood is the child will reflect this!
The fact that he was pointing at something shows that his fear is to one particular area, what ever it may be. It could even be an attention thing! I had this with my daughter when she was younger! She would complain of tummy ache whenever I had to leave for work, but her Grandmother said she heard nothing more of it once I was actually gone- she was protesting me leaving and this was around when she was 2 as well. This could be solved by using a "baby cam" which you can find in Argos. Instead of having the "TV screen" in your room, showing the baby - switch it to show your son you're safe, okay and happy.
Furthermore, if this is the stereotypical "monsters under the bed" type of behaviour often seen in children a good thing to do is a nightlight and insure that the bedroom door isn't shut totally! Getting some air freshener and calling it "monster spray!" a quick squirt here and there and it dissolves the monsters in the room, they won't hurt anyone anymore - this type of level explanation insures that your child understands it!! Think of it in their eyes, if the tooth fairy and Santa exist then sure as hell a monster can a simple, "he doesn't exist" may put the child in a calm state for the first ten minuets and then imagination takes hold and he (the monster) is suddenly as real as you or his father!
Just at night time be sure to explain that his room is safe, maybe try and involve play (jigsaws, car mat etc) in there for an hour rather than the lounge so it isn't such a big shock and change when he has to go to bed later on- although, don't do this too often or for too long as the room should be associated with rest and sleep not play time and loud fun!
I hope this advice has helped you. Another idea is playing soothing music into his room at night.
What deserves first place among these ten Films of 2012? Tenth place?
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Here in alphabetic order are the 10 nominees for best film in the Producers Guild Awards -- which deserves the Top ranking and whice deserves the Tenth place (last)? 10 points for best reasoning; posted Jan. 3, 2013 8:45 a.m. Eastern
Argo
Beasts of the Southern Wild
Django Unchained
Les Miserables
Life of Pi
Lincoln
Moonrise Kingdom
Silver Linings Playbook
Skyfall
Zero Dark Thirty
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I have not seen Zero Dark Thirty (although it will be out in my city next week so I will soon) so I have to leave that one out of the discussion but in my opinion this is how the rest of the movies should be ranked.
1. Moonrise Kingdom
2. Silver Linings Playbook
3. Argo
4. Django Unchained
5. Beasts of the Southern Wild
6. Skyfall
7. Life of Pi
8. Lincoln
9. Les Miserables
I think that Moonrise Kingdom is the best movie on the list because of unique and how well-crafted it is. I have always loved Wes Anderson and I think that Moonrise Kingdom is one of his best films. First of all, it is gorgeous. It is very colorful and framing is perfect. You can tell that every shot of this movie was perfectly set up in the way Wes Anderson wanted it to be and it ends up making almost every shot of this movie look like a painting. Another thing is the acting is great. The adults and the kids are fit perfectly in to the Wes Anderson universe. The story is also wonderful, it's a childhood romance story and the kids who are happy and in love and want to run away together are juxtaposed with these adults who are sad because they are stuck in the monotony of everyday life. The film is basically saying that kids should make the most out of their childhood because someday they probably end up unhappy whether it's in their jobs or their marriages. Although there's a lot of melancholy to this film it's quite beautiful and I think it was definitely one of the best movies of the year.
The worst movie on this list is Les Miserables by far. I don't think it is an awful movie or anything but it has a lot of problems. First of all, a lot worked in the movie. Although it's kind of depressing at times the story of Jean Valjean is a very moving and a very interesting one. It is one of redemption and I understand why the book is held in such high regard. I also think Hugh Jackman did a fantastic job playing Valjean. Anne Hathaway and newcomer Samantha Barks were also stand-outs. The actor that did not do so well though was Russel Crowe as Javert. I think he is an extremely talented actor but he was really miscast and he does not have the vocals for this kind of movie. I also did not really care for Helena Bonham Carter and Sacha Baron Cohen. They were kind of funny at first but ultimately they ended up being extremely annoying. Despite all of this, there was an even bigger issue with this movie that made me not like it. I don't love musicals in the first place, and that's not criticism. I cannot hold that against it because if I don't like musicals then that is my problem not the movie's. What is the movies problem though, and what the musical aspect even more unbearable to me is the really tight shots and the length. Tom Hooper (the director) holds so many closeup shots for what seems like forever. It is also over two and a half hours long. It basically took the worst of American Idol and made me watch it for nearly three hours. This movie is so unapologetic and in-your-face, and while I respect Tom Hoopers courage in making the movie the way he did, the camera work was distracting and at some points excruciating. I hope some day I get to see an adaptation of the book and not the musical because I really did like the story and the characters. Although there are much worse movies out there, I don't ever want to experience this version of Les Miserables again.
I have not seen Zero Dark Thirty (although it will be out in my city next week so I will soon) so I have to leave that one out of the discussion but in my opinion this is how the rest of the movies should be ranked.
1. Moonrise Kingdom
2. Silver Linings Playbook
3. Argo
4. Django Unchained
5. Beasts of the Southern Wild
6. Skyfall
7. Life of Pi
8. Lincoln
9. Les Miserables
I think that Moonrise Kingdom is the best movie on the list because of unique and how well-crafted it is. I have always loved Wes Anderson and I think that Moonrise Kingdom is one of his best films. First of all, it is gorgeous. It is very colorful and framing is perfect. You can tell that every shot of this movie was perfectly set up in the way Wes Anderson wanted it to be and it ends up making almost every shot of this movie look like a painting. Another thing is the acting is great. The adults and the kids are fit perfectly in to the Wes Anderson universe. The story is also wonderful, it's a childhood romance story and the kids who are happy and in love and want to run away together are juxtaposed with these adults who are sad because they are stuck in the monotony of everyday life. The film is basically saying that kids should make the most out of their childhood because someday they probably end up unhappy whether it's in their jobs or their marriages. Although there's a lot of melancholy to this film it's quite beautiful and I think it was definitely one of the best movies of the year.
The worst movie on this list is Les Miserables by far. I don't think it is an awful movie or anything but it has a lot of problems. First of all, a lot worked in the movie. Although it's kind of depressing at times the story of Jean Valjean is a very moving and a very interesting one. It is one of redemption and I understand why the book is held in such high regard. I also think Hugh Jackman did a fantastic job playing Valjean. Anne Hathaway and newcomer Samantha Barks were also stand-outs. The actor that did not do so well though was Russel Crowe as Javert. I think he is an extremely talented actor but he was really miscast and he does not have the vocals for this kind of movie. I also did not really care for Helena Bonham Carter and Sacha Baron Cohen. They were kind of funny at first but ultimately they ended up being extremely annoying. Despite all of this, there was an even bigger issue with this movie that made me not like it. I don't love musicals in the first place, and that's not criticism. I cannot hold that against it because if I don't like musicals then that is my problem not the movie's. What is the movies problem though, and what the musical aspect even more unbearable to me is the really tight shots and the length. Tom Hooper (the director) holds so many closeup shots for what seems like forever. It is also over two and a half hours long. It basically took the worst of American Idol and made me watch it for nearly three hours. This movie is so unapologetic and in-your-face, and while I respect Tom Hoopers courage in making the movie the way he did, the camera work was distracting and at some points excruciating. I hope some day I get to see an adaptation of the book and not the musical because I really did like the story and the characters. Although there are much worse movies out there, I don't ever want to experience this version of Les Miserables again.
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